• Ebony L. Robinson

Know Your Name

Jean was having a conversation with some folks one day and it was a great conversation. She and her friends were asking each other questions and someone said to her that they were nervous about coming to talk to her because she was intense. The folks around asked for them to clarify because they didn't know what they meant by using that word. So another person said are you saying Jean is unapproachable? The person said no...I guess I mean because she is always busy and I am not sure how to approach when so much is going on around her. Let's take a pause for the cause. In the spirit of transparency, Goodness if that was me I probably would've felt something raising up on the inside and not the Holy Spirit (OMG). I would've had to keep my face together. I know I am not the only one who has to watch the face?! Help us Lord!

But I was curious as to why that word was used when describing Jean. Generally people would describe her as low key not intense, drama free not intense, passionate but not intense. The people around Jean was confused as well because INTENSE would not be the word that they would use to describe her either. It was interesting and perplexing simultaneously.

Has this happened to you before? You get called something that is the opposite of your character? Some times you do have to do a gut check and admit when that person is right. But there are other times when a person can get you wrong. And I mean ALL THE WAY WRONG. There are also times when people misinterpret your conduct in a context. What am I saying? Catch me with my family and we are having fun but if you catch me during worship service my demeanor may change. Why? Because I am in a setting that requires me to be focused, attuned, readily available to minister. So if a person would call me intense they would only be characterizing me from a context that is a small landscape of my life. Therefore I would not answer to INTENSE because that isn't my name.

How many times do we jump mad because someone calls you out of your name? Let them call you that but you don't have to answer. Stop trying to break down doors to go after a person, going off on them until you are blue in the face, and posting clapbacks on social media. Whatever they call you holds no weight especially when you KNOW who you are, others around can vouch for who you really are, and God established your identity. I Peter 2:9 says, But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for God's own possession, so that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who has called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.

Don't concern yourself with what they call you, know your name.